Dear Peter!
(Peter Murphy, pls see the message on the blog dated 09.04.2012)
Here I'm asking the permission to thank you:
Firstly, that you don't celebrate 1-st May Holiday and continue to send me useful advises about communication skills improvement.
Secondly, that you managed to send me remarkable message with 5 wise hints these days:
Below I'm putting the synopsis of it:
(I confess, to my regret, sometimes in the past my behavior coinsided with the described ...)
Oh, if I could have read your prompts earlier... probably my present and my future might be different .... ...
Sorry, my Dear, "LET YOUR PAST TO GO ... ", as was said in the prominent speech, delivered by Victoria Skliar during the last meeting!!!!
Thus, advises from Peter:
Make Good Conversation Every Time When you avoid these 5 Common Mistakes
you need to be aware of them:
1. Blah, Blah, Blah.
The Blabbermouth is the number one enemy of the good conversation. The other party soon tunes out. Never letting the other person get a word in, the word hog just continues talking. It's an occupational hazard of becoming a good speaker, to forget about the listening part of a conversation.
2. Me, too!
Someone innocently starts a topic. Let us suggest about recently seen movie.
The other person basically grabs the ball and runs with it. (Or you might say runs at the mouth with it.).
And then (unfortunately), he or she, the 'me, too' talker will say: "Oh, really? I saw the new Sci-Fi flick..."
Then 'me, too' starts to describe the movie leaving you high and dry with your conversation starter.
3. Take My Advice.
At the drop of a hint of a problem, this person is quick to offer advice. More men tend to ruin a good conversation
with this bad habit then women. Both men and women do it, though.
There is nothing more annoying then talking to someone who suddenly turns into one of your parents. If you have a bad habit of doing this and are wisely trying to break it, let the person finish what they were saying. Then you can ask if they wanted an opinion or just wanted to express themselves.
4. Interruption.
Interrupting before your conversation partner has had a chance to finish their thought is annoying. It shows that
you think what you have to say is much more important than what the other person is saying.
5. Contradiction.
A good conversation doesn't play the 'I'm right so you should be wrong' game. A better way is to let the person
finish. Then say, " I have a different view than yours. I'll explain..."
If you've allowed the other person a chance to explain their viewpoint, they are more likely to listen to yours.
Following these pointers will help you be able to carry on effective and interesting small talk conversations.
You will also be able to make the other person feel good about your conversation. You just have to know the right way to do it.
If you want to improve your professional and social standing, learn to communicate efficiently and in a positive manner. You will notice a dramatic difference in the way other people perceive you if you demonstrate self-confidence and project a friendly, informed image.
All the very best,
Peter
Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently revealed the secret strategies all high achievers use to
communicate with charm and impact.